Rihanna May Be a Superstar but She's Really a Domestic Violence Statistic – Descent into BDSM Continues Her Self Loathing

TECHNORATI – Author: Kim Bayne
Published: December 27, 2012 at 5:36 am

I do not have any respect for Rihanna. Why should I? She does not appear to have any for herself. Rumors have been flying about her reconciliation with Chris Brown, the man who was convicted of causing the injuries above to Rihanna in 2009, for months now.

Whether or not they are ‘back together’ has been the hot topic around water coolers since mid July.

Confirmation or denial is redundant. Rihanna’s body language around Chris Brown speaks volumes. These pictures show that all is forgiven and that she is ready for Round 2. Pun intended.

Rihanna is showing the world that she cares so little for herself that she will happily keep the company of a man who caused her injury. A man who was convicted of and plead guilty to causing her injury. This young woman had photographs taken and displayed around the world of her battered face. Yet three years on, she is indicating from her behavior that she has forgiven him. Her body language is telling the world that its ok to beat up Rihanna, she will forgive, forget and also give you a hefty dose of sexy eyes in public.

Rihanna does not have the respect for herself to keep away from this man. It is perfectly natural that she may miss him. She admitted in an interview with Oprah Winfrey in August of this year that he was the love of her life. Complicating her feelings might be the fact that their initial relationship ended unexpectedly, violently and abruptly. That sort of situation involves a grieving process, so Rihanna could have been forgiven in the immediate aftermath of tha trauma for being confused and unsure of herself.

What she needs to realize now, three years on, is that what Chris Brown did to her was an act of violence. As hard as it is for her to sever her feelings for this man, she must learn or be taught that what he did to her is not acceptable behavior for a person to do to another person at all, let alone someone they are in a relationship with. She must gain the skills necessary to reconcile in her mind that a person who truly loves her would not want to behave like that toward her and that she is the only one who can demand how she is treated by men.

Her behavior now is sending him a message that she will tolerate behavior from him toward her that is violent and abusive. She has demonstrated her self-worth is not important enough to sever the bond she shared with this man. Chris Brown will learn from her behavior that he can get away with unacceptable behavior without consequence from Rihanna. That he can be disrespectful and abusive and she will tolerate it.

Rihanna may be a superstar but to me she is another statistic. Another woman who lacked the confidence and self-respect to take a stand and say NO, I am not going to allow myself to be treated this way. Another woman who gave her self-worth a backseat to the fear of being without a man. Rihanna outwardly appears to be a strong, independent women. Yet she is really a victim of domestic violence who believes her abuser’s remorse, more than she believes in her own inner strength and her right to a loving partner who will treat her how she deserves to be treated.  Rihanna is just another women who went back to an abusive partner, believing that it would never happen again.

 

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